Disability Pride Month is supposed to be a celebration. And it is — disabled people deserve joy, visibility, and community. But this year, I can’t pretend everything feels like progress. Because if you look at the systems disabled people rely on, it’s painfully clear: we’re not just stalled. We’re going backwards. The reality: our rights and resources are shrinking, not expanding Over the last few years, disabled people have watched essential supports get cut, restricted, or

Something I hear often — especially from people who have never lived inside a chronically ill or disabled body — is that people “make their illness their identity.” It’s said like a warning. Like a failure of mindset. Like something we should avoid at all costs. But here’s the truth: illness is not cured with a good attitude, and it is not pathological to identify with something that has fundamentally changed your life.

For many people living with chronic illness, chronic pain, disability, or medically unexplained symptoms, the most painful part isn’t always the illness itself — it’s the way they’ve been treated while trying to get help. Medical gaslighting doesn’t just leave you unheard in the exam room. Over time, it can change the way you talk to yourself, trust your body, and make sense of your symptoms. This is the part no one warns you about: external gaslighting eventually becomes int

People‑pleasing is often misunderstood as a personality trait — something soft, agreeable, or overly accommodating. But for many chronically ill and disabled people, people‑pleasing is not about being “nice.” It’s a fawn response: a trauma‑based survival strategy shaped by years of medical trauma, disbelief, and consequences for expressing needs. When you’ve been dismissed, punished, or labeled “difficult” for advocating for yourself, appeasing others becomes a way to stay sa

For many people living with chronic illness or disability, medical care isn’t just stressful — it can feel dangerous. Not because you’re “too sensitive,” but because your body has learned, over years of invalidation or unpredictability, that medical spaces are not always safe. This is medical trauma. And it’s far more common than most people realize.